There’s a myth of turning 40 is the beginning, what are your thoughts on this? I am totally experiencing it now. Throughout my life, I have always been doing the typical and what expected of me. Went to uni, started working right away, been in the same industry for over two decades and now where am I? I than realised life is not about ticking boxes, is about finding your true self. But what is your true self? How do you find it? These are questions that keep popping up in my head.
Ways that helped me – Connecting the dots …
Connecting the dots
While you spend the time to reflect, spend sometime to sit down and map out your past, present and future life. Three very important phases of our lives. At first, I really struggle, struggle to even begin, where do you begin when you have 40 years that passed you. So, I reached out and seek help, from mentors, therapist and friends in talking about what I am going through right now. My mind blowing moment was thinking back what I really enjoyed doing while I was younger, in my case, my dramatic change and ah-ha moment was becoming a mother.
Past
During conversations, I was able to connect that I use to do certain activities that are no longer on my list. I once loved soaking up so much vitamin D away on holidays every year seems so far away. This made me realised, when we’re stuck in our heads, as busy as you can imagine, everything and everyone’s priorities seems to be more important then your own. Eight full years without something that I use to love, love so much, right now, I know how important it is. Lesson learnt here, are you missing something that was once your dear love? Do you spare time for yourself to do the things that you love most? Reflect and secure time for yourself, notice if there’s any difference? Make time and space for your beloved, it is as important as everything you have right now.
Present
Being present is still work in progress for me, modern life is hard to really take in everything that happens on a day to day basis. My days goes by so quickly that I can’t even just be present. So a little hack is, take a walk, being close to nature really brings such clear visions to your mind, clarity of what is happening right now, clarity on what is happening. Try this when you’re stuck and let me know in the comments!
Future
This, I love! I really never knew the importance of
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